1 Timothy 3:1-6

It is a trustworthy statement; if any man aspires to be the office of overseer, it is a fine work he desires to do. An overseer, then, must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, temperate, prudent, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not addicted to wine or pugnacious, but gentile, peaceable, free from the love of money,. He must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children under control with all dignity (but if a man does not know how to manage his own household, how we will he take care of the church of God?), and not a new convert, so that he will not become conceited and fall into the condemnation incurred by the devil.

Wow there was a lot in this juicy passage, lol. If a man wants to be an overseer, he needs to do all of these things that are required. He must be above reproach. A man should not fall into the feeling of disappointed a lot. God never tells his people to be disappointed. It is important for a man of God to not commit fornication. He should marry a true woman of Christ, care, and truly be there for her. God intended man and woman only to marry. As a result of marriage, they would produce and take care of a wonderful child. This is a gift from God. He should also be moderate in everything He does. He should not eat in excess, drink in excess because these things are not pleasing to God at all. A man should always be prudent in everything he does. He should always act with love and care which comes from our loving God. He should also be respectable and hospitable. A true man of God would respect everyone and not judge. He would always welcome them into their homes, and treat them like how they would want to be treated. We should be able and be in a condition to truly teach the word of God, and only the word of God. We should not be addicted to alcohol or drugs because it conflicts with our mind when we are getting together to study God's Word. When people use drugs and alcohol, it puts their mind in a state where they are not fully focusing on God to comfort them, they are seeking outside methods. People should definitely be peaceful and free from the love of money. The love of money is not productive because it takes away from your focus on God. You spend all of your time thinking about money instead of God. Raising a good family is the last thing that is listed here. The bible says that if you cannot take care of your family, then you cannot take care of a church. If you do all of these things, you can become an overseer of the church. If we fall short of these things, this is where prayer comes in.